I just got a whiff of good news last night. A friend who had celebrated her 21st birthday also got attached at the same time. And I for one, felt so very happy for her..it’s like a warm fuzzy-feeling-in-the-tummy kind of happy. I must say that it’s so very different from that of which I had felt for so many times as I heard couples upon couples getting together while I was still single.
So, I was telling Yongqiang about this change in the feeling and we shared the same sentiments that it is now a “Welcome to the club!” kind of happy..because we ourselves have been through the period of pre-togetherness.
Anyway, for those who are single and reading this, I am not trying to make you eat your hearts out. For the record, I have spent many, many years of my life wondering, wondering and wondering too. So I totally understand how it goes..it’s that kind of happy yet slightly envious and all the while deep down questioning “when’s my turn coming” thing, right? Ok, now you’re smiling :)
What I wanna say is, it ain’t easy. Two people getting together. And that explains the happy feeling when you hear such news.
I remember the times in those months before Yongqiang and I got together..I had my bout of doubts and uncertainty, coupled with many prayerful and pondering nights. And believe me, there were many times when I felt I am better off staying single..! Because to me, it does take courage to step into a relationship.
Yet, two is indeed better than one. Being together with another person does reveal a lot more about ourselves..most times, in very unexpected ways and measures. I’d like to say that love is a giant magnifying glass. It causes us to see sides of us we had not seen before - the flaws and also the pluses.
So, have fun all you singles!
And those already in the club.. here’s a quote that touched me deeply:
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost - Gilbert Keith Chesterton
If we could love them like this, we would be able to cherish them more.